Its said that when you go within, you begin to create the change you seek.  Do you believe that to be true?  Do you believe that you have the power to change your reality?

I do because I’ve seen it!  I’ve felt a change within so intensely that it changed my world.

In the not so distant past, when I felt my lowest, I went within seeking answers.  I knew I needed to change my life, yet wasn’t sure how or where to begin.  I searched for answers, read inspiring books, listened to motivational speakers and followed their advice.  What I was missing was the connection to self.  I wasn’t allowing myself to delve deep within to create the change I was seeking.

The word Meditation was everywhere.  I had seen people meditate, but hadn’t done so myself.  I saw how they sat on the floor, hands on their knees, but what do they think about, what do they say to themselves, how do they stop their minds from wondering?  All of these questions ran rampant through my mind.  How do I get to that point?  I wanted to know!

I began to research meditation.  I wanted to know everything!  As I researched, I implemented.  I put into practice everything I was learning because I knew that I needed to teach this fantastic art to others!  I made it my mission to show others how to heal themselves, just as I had done.

When I became connected, I was able to see my world for what it was and how it could be.  I was able to differentiate between expectations and purpose.  I was able to put my soul’s purpose into play.  I connected with a part of myself that I didn’t even know existed.  I became aware of a deeper meaning to life, not just the surface level of what I thought it should look like to others.

I became proud of who I was becoming.

I grew.  I changed.  I evolved.

I no longer looked for validation from others because I knew I was following my destined path.  I no longer worried how others would perceive me or my lifestyle because I knew that I was serving a greater purpose; one that sometimes seemed hard to explain.  I gained a greater sense of self.

Within a short time, I began to feel a difference in my mind.  I began to see how my thoughts shaped my reality.  I began to control my emotions to keep my vibration elevated.

Meditation had changed my life.  It has allowed me to see who I am from a deeper, more intimate connection.

But, it wasn’t an easy process.  It took time.  I was equally intrigued and confused at first.  I wasn’t sure how to go about any of it, or how I was supposed to feel.  I just knew there was something about the peace, serenity and wholeness that I craved.

Allow meditation to change your life too!

You’re not growing if you refuse to let go. You’re not growing if you choose to stay safe. You’re not growing if you don’t accept change.

As I was meditating today, I felt an urge to write. I wrote without thinking, without hesitation.

“I have seen amazing detail in your dreams – so much so that I know what you’re capable of. Nothing can ever hold me back unless you say so. The message I have for you today is that you’re holding yourself back because you’re afraid. Stop doubting yourself. Stop saying NO to your potential – to your dreams. Only you can make them come true.”

“There is nothing to fear – nothing to be afraid of. I am holding you up as you grow. I will never let you fall.”

I’ve learned to listen.. To my body, to my mind, to my emotions and to my angels.

Sometimes we feel the emotions stronger than others and sometimes those emotions aren’t sweet, energetic and loving.

At those times, I turn inward. I listen to what needs to be heard; I allow messages to come through; I learn to grow from each experience and accept the next level of growth.

Our circumstances are created by our willingness to grow, listen and to venture into the unknown with faith, love and acceptance of change.

Today, I declare to you that I will no longer tell myself No. That I will no longer be afraid to grow into the next best version of myself.. and I challenge you to do the same.

With each phase of life we grow, yet you decide whether or not you’ll repeat the pattern or shift into something better.

When you look at the night sky, what do you feel?

Do you see an essence of yourself floating off in wanderlust?

You feel your soul set free as you glide, at peace and remarkably graceful.

A tattered ribbon of who you once were gently rests upon the ground where you sat.

You have been set free; in love you soar and in joy you rise.

You are among the greatness you seek for you already are all that you’ve desired among the stars.

As I sit at my desk, staring out into the blue sky, I attempt to recall the exact moment when I realized that hurt had become my shield.  I wore it like a crest; majestic and proud.  I claimed that all circumstances were what they were due to the pain I felt in my soul.

Never giving much thought to my own responsibility in any matter, I allowed myself to be a victim.  Standing tall, I spewed words of cruelty and dismay; only to ease the suffering that I was placing upon my own reality.

I see the error of my ways now.  Years of darkness harbored over me as I relentlessly tried to succumb to some form of serenity.  Clouds cradled my mind leading me to believe that all of the pain in the world was simple necessity of being human.

I fell to my own demons in time.  They lied, cheated and tortured my life for far too long.  My awakening was one that I didn’t see coming, yet was imperative to stand on stable ground.

Have you felt hopeless before?  As if your world is crashing down and all you can do is surrender to the darkness.  Have you felt the life drift from your sights so that you begin to believe this is your fate?

Our generations are hurt.  They are scarred from pains of the past.  They are held to believe that their future is dependent on their ancestors.  Not seeing that our future is what they choose to make of it.

I held hurt.  I allowed it to sew its cloak of sadness into the threads of my existence.  I thought that generational curses were mine to bare.  I was unsure of how to break the mold to become who I wanted to be; not who I was told to become.

When I stood on my own two feet, grounded to the Earth and prepared to stand against the storm, I knew my purpose was closing in.  I had been the wearer of darkness and the cultivator of pain.  I had been the diminished version of my own identity to walk as someone I was told to be.

The tragic mind that I carried with me had seen a light; new and unapologetic.  Refreshing and resonating in love; I just had to grasp it with both hands.

My life became light, my soul became softened and my eyes began to see love.  I no longer lived under a hardened shell of expectation and fear; I was free to become the passionate, creative person I knew I could be.

I felt it in my core.  Knowing I was meant for more; more fulfillment, more happiness and more adventure.  When I began to see my life through my own eyes, I was able to take leaps of faith, not knowing the outcome, yet assured that I was to be more than I ever imagined.

As a bit of a hobby, I enjoy giving new life to old furnishings. Scaling off the old, drenching them in beautiful glory. I began to wonder why we don’t appreciate the repurposed phases of our lives as we do objects.

For every closed door brings new opportunity. For every sad ending brings about realigned appreciation of introspection.

We become aware of the beauty of shredded layers of wooden furnishing, yet don’t show the depth of the layers our soul shed when we learn to love ourselves for the hell we tread to come into our own heaven on Earth.

Do you see that your wounds are flowers in bloom, there for you to enjoy, grow and thrive in extraordinary love?

Your worth isn’t dependent upon visions of the outside world. No, my friend, your worth is the excitement that you feel in the depths of your soul, repurposed and eagerly awaiting your enjoyment.

As we take steps into the unknown, we begin to lose the ideal of a scary world and begin to embrace the captivity of surreal endeavors that some cannot comprehend.

Your job is not to observe and appeal to others expectations, yet to dive into your sea of purpose, self discovery and passion. Allow your creativity to flow freely into pure bliss as you uncover your new surroundings of bold existence.

You are a work of art! Repurposed, refreshed and rejuvenated into the perfect embodiment of the passionate being you were created to be!

xoxo

Did you know that when you smile the entire world leaps to catch a glimpse?

To capture the sight of such inexpiable beauty – unable to be justified to the human eyes.

Such grace, such magnificence, such transparency of earthly elegance.

Do you see it?  Do you feel it?

Feel it to the depths of your soul.  Relish in its splendor.  Dance in its honesty.

You, my dear, are the most beautiful embodiment of joy that I’ve ever seen; and you shall shine beyond your limitations.

Believe that you can move mountains and you will do just that!

Nothing can stop a force like you.

Go out into the world and make it yours!

  1. Get outside! As a creative, we tend to fixate on our creations and forget the little details that naturally inspire us. Smell the roses, literally! Get your feet on the grass! Take deep breaths of fresh air! 🌹
  2. Smile! Oh gosh, do we have to?! YES! Your art shouldn’t be the only beauty that’s seen for who you are.
    Remember to enjoy the path – the bumps and falls – because they too have brought you to where you are today! And, frankly, knowing this isn’t the end, yet the beginning of something amazing is plenty of reason to smile!
  3. Just breathe! As a society of fast paced, fast scrolling people – we rush, we need a quick fix for just about everything that we sometimes forget to just breathe. Not everything deserves our attention, a response, or even a second look. As my mom always says “choose your battles carefully” because not everything is yours to fight.
  4. Step away from the news!
    Ugh. Where do I begin? We all know there’s a global pandemic. We all know there’s a crap-ton of crime. We all know there’s an election. We all know the media is going to focus on whatever scare tactic they can push that day, so just stop. Do yourself the most grand favor of all and stop watching the news.

🌱 Fill yourself with the stuff that inspires your soul.
🌱 Fill your mind with love, positivity and peace.

Because if we want more of this stuff we need to focus on its source to create more!

Its said that every mom and every child are unique. Special characteristics, personalities, quirks and amazing attributes that all equal to an unexplainable amount of love for another being.

This Mother’s day I look at my two small kids in awe. I think of our trials and triumphs, the day each were born and the moments of tears, some good and some sadness. I remember the feeling that cascaded through me the first time I held each newborn baby for the first time. I can recall the littlest detail of their first smiles.

I’ve learned that living for today is more precious to me than planning ahead at times. That enjoying their years of sweet tenderness and needing mommy won’t always be. That I have clothed them in gentleness and kindness that, I hope, will carry them through life.

My children have molded me into who I’ve become. They have taught me more than any parenting book ever could. They see joy in the smallest things. They find giggles on my hardest days. They can sense any emotion and embrace me, their mom, with compassion and grace. They see me as their personal superhero when most times I feel that I’m not serving them at my best.

Our children are gifts. They are sent from above to create a newness within us that will forever change our world. They are our next generations that will care for us when our time comes to be their child-like elders.

They are more profound than they’re given credit. They see our sorrow and try to make us smile. They carry a weight of adulthood that should never be. They are the sparkle to our dullness.

And despite doing our best to be their biggest supporters, they’ll always be ours.

Happy Mother’s Day.

Embrace our children for the astounding, breathtaking tiny humans that they are.. our eternal loves.

The road may seem dark, it may seem off center, yet only you can navigate past the confusion to the other side.

Darkness is part of each of us.  How you hold it depends on you.  You may find that it hurts to let it go, while others bury theirs at first sight.

For me, I chose to love mine.  It is a divine part of my soul; a part of me that humbles my mind and allows my light to shine brighter.

My shadows sit with me at night when loneliness wants to be held.  I allow it to be felt.  To be where it needs to be when it needs to be felt.

I am at peace.  I am grounded knowing that love holds me tight when nothing else seems comforting.  I am at peace.  I am soothed to sleep each night with a power of creation racing through my mind.  I am at peace.  I know there is a greater force within that will not allow me to sink, yet to swim in waters of compassion.

I am at peace within.  I am powerful.  I am serene.  I am walking through shadows of who I once was to light a path for tomorrow.

I am at peace with my darkness because I was saved from its rushing waves.

When nothing else can seem to feel whole, I know that I saved myself once and I’ll do it each day until my last breath to feel love through my veins and peace in my heart.

During an intense time in her life, she rose to see herself as a flower blooming for the first time.  She stood in the field surrounded by openness and promise.  Not a moment too soon, as she inhaled the sweet scent of wildflowers, she was filled with strength in a way she had never felt before.

The world was dark, yet she saw light within her soul.  She knew man’s hope was not in vain, yet in sadness.  She knew a women scorned was not the end of it all, yet the start of a renewed sense of self.  She knew that the soul could be cleansed of its tarnish, returning to a state of beauty and solace.

She crafted an ideal body of self to cultivate love across the plains.  She was the embodiment of peace as she drifted off into the sunlight.  All that she desired was within her.  She was sent to create change; a change that would transform humanity until the end of time.

Her words were tender; her touch was sincere.  Each blade of grass that caressed her skin turned to silk upon her release.

Her name was unknown, yet her legacy lives on.  She was perfect and light, soulful and grounded.  Every soul encounter was etched in stone.  She was a rebirth for all who were lost.  She was a second chance – a new beginning.

She was the sun, the moon, the earth, and the sea.

She was the flower moon.

These are the words that came to me in a deep state of meditation.  I sat there in silence, looking at myself staring back at me when these words were spoken.

“You already are all that you desire”.

I shivered.  I sobbed.  I realized that all that makes me unique and an asset to this world is exactly who I am to be.  Not conformed to unappealing standards like a box; yet to be completely, unapologetically myself.

When choosing to transform my life, I knew that growth would come with discomfort and loads of change.  I was unsure of how much of that growth would allow for staying who I thought I needed to be.  There were times when I felt that maybe I should alter my personality to appeal to other’s expectations, change this or that, only to realize that I already am exactly who I am supposed to be, without bending or tearing who I am now.

My life is unique; beautiful and growing.  I don’t apologize for my past: it has shaped me into who I needed to be and that is more valuable than regret could ever be.

We are created to be more than the conscious mind can comprehend.  We are created to expand, become uncomfortable in order to grow, be more than we see with the naked eye: to be exceptional in every way.

When these words came to me, I was sitting on the floor in my closet (that’s my spot to meditate – its dark, quiet and spacious) in a deep state of subconsciousness.  Every cell in my body was being drawn to the front of my head.  A pull, if you will, to my third eye (pineal gland area).  I saw a version of myself staring back at me.  Flowing, graceful and at peace.  She (I) was saying “You already are all that you desire” over and over again.  She didn’t stop.  In a voice quiet and serene, she continued to recite those words as she slowly came closer.  I never steered from her gaze.  I was mesmerized and in awe.

I began to say the same words and felt shivers flowing through my entire body.

As I said those words, I felt them.  I knew that this message was meant to awaken me from the fear of being fully who I am; to not be afraid of the world, to give who I am to help others truly embrace a deep rooted love for themselves.

She began to fade away.  As I kept repeating what she had said, I sobbed.  Those words struck my core like nothing I’ve ever felt before.

I had heard of being open to receiving message from God, the Universe, Spirit, Angels – whomever you believe, yet I had never experienced anything like this before.

We have the power to completely change the momentum of our lives.  I know, I’m proof.

Being connected to a spirituality that confirms that who I am is all that I need to be is reassuring that my life’s purpose is on-spot and aligned with a higher power than myself.

Trust in yourself.  Have faith in fresh starts. And, ultimately, like I did – if you need help reaching ground again, seek help.

Love yourself for who you are, that’s where new beginnings start.

Squeeze the shit out of those things!!!

Seriously.  Who can honestly say life hasn’t thrown them a curveball a time or two?  Right.  No one.  So, what’s the antidote to all things shit?  MAKE LEMONADE!

(think of the sensation that lemonade gives: sweet and sour, makes your mouth pucker up and leaves you feeling summer fresh!)

Let’s put this into perspective for a second.  Say you’re at the entrance of a new year and you’ve set your sights on achieving all you could possibly dream of; that dream life, that new career, that dream vacation, to find the love of your life.  Then COVID-19 hits and the world stops.

What do you do?  Do you curl up into a ball of blankets, go back to bed and hope it’ll all be over when you wake?  NO!  You put on your big kid pants, get up, and keep going with a few adjustments.

Do you want to know why so many people are sinking instead of swimming during this time?  They can’t get their mind right.  When you look at the bigger picture, you have a few simple options.  Live life or let it live you. Nobody wants the latter so find a way to make a new normal (even if temporarily) and push ahead!

I know you’re thinking this is all easier said than done, and for some maybe you’re right, but if you get your mind right, the rest tends to fall into place.  Life was never meant to be so hard or difficult that you feel like you’re drowning.  That’s perception.  Learn how to handle your emotions and react accordingly (and when necessary).  Not every situation deserves your attention!!  Not every situation deserves your tears or breakdown.  Not every situation deserves your sacrifice.

It’s what you allow to control your life.

Make some lemonade, sit back, do your part to keep society peaceful and bide your time.  It will be okay!

 

Last week I spoke of characteristics.  Of how others perceive you – as to how and who you should be.  This isn’t entirely the same point, yet goes along with who you choose to be.

Actions speak louder than words.

When you think of this statement, what comes to mind?  For me, its being an example.  I think there’s a strong relevance to the words that you speak and the actions that follow those words.  If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT!

One thing that drives me mad are empty words. So, when I hear someone commit to something that I know is absolutely not going to happen, I (literally) roll my eyes. To me, this confirms one thing.. that their word is useless. We see it over and over, and really, its infuriating.

So many stories come to mind when I think of these words; then I remember this.. that if we all took life with such little effort and thought, where would the world be?  What would we be teaching the younger generations?  What kind of example are we being to those who are watching?

Don’t get me wrong.. following through with what you say isn’t about validation from an outside source.  Not at all.  Its ALL about holding yourself accountable to what you claim.

I think of it this way.. if I told my family I’d be doing this, and instead I chose to do nothing, leaving them wondering why I didn’t do what I promised, what kind of message am I sending?  Again, its all about being accountable for yourself!

The only thing in this world you can absolutely control is yourself.  When you make the conscious decision to place valuable words to a commitment, follow through.

Being a woman in a society of pretty faces and beautiful facades, I know this; I’m not like anyone else.  Hurt my feelings, if you must, but no matter what, be honest with me.  Don’t tell me what you think I want to hear, because I guarantee you have no idea what’s going on in my mind.

I want my life to be full of authenticity, education, wisdom, and very importantly, growth.

Our world has become one of words and no action.  Words to fill a void of another person, yet no action to follow.  Fake, if you will.  Now, I know thats a bold and, possibly unfair statement, yet I call it how I see it.

Having a positive attitude in a broken world is what I strive for.  I don’t expect everyone to be on the same page, yet I do expect this.. honesty.

When I became a mom I was just like every new mom.. clueless.  There wasn’t much that I was confident about, but I was sure about some decisions of how I’d raise my kids.

  •  Teach my kids to ALWAYS treat others how they want to be treated.  ALWAYS.
  • Love everyone no matter what. (hate is not in our vocabulary)
  • Its okay to be weird.. we all are!
  •  If you say you’re going to do something, do it!
  •  The truth is always the best way.

 

I knew I wanted my kids to grow up to be the most amazing citizens they can be.  Sure they have their own personalities and will make their own choices one day, yet I will live my life as an example (not perfect, but accountable).

This post is going to annoy some people.  Its going to cause some eye rolls.  Its going to make you second guess a few things.  GOOD!!  Then that means the words are truth and somewhere inside its grabbed your attention!

I don’t say this to be hurtful, I say this to be honest…  Don’t say anything that you have no intention of following through on.  You’re unknowingly creating a reputation of yourself for your nearest & dearest that they, simply put, can’t trust you.  If you’re okay with that, so be it.  But, in my bold opinion, that’s not okay.

During the time when I felt my worst, I was my own worst enemy.  I went in extremes from telling others what I thought they needed to hear to being so brutally honest that I was crushing to those around me.  There was no in-between.  I had created a version of myself that was unjust, unfair and, frankly, ridiculous.  I didn’t like myself.  When I became more aware of myself and the inner self that is me, I began to realize that not one of the things I was making my reality were actually me.  I didn’t like this person!  She was the epitome of all the things I don’t like in others.  I did that.  And the only way to recover was to live truly, honestly, and purposefully.  I started a new road (as you know), I learned more about myself, my past, my current, and my future than I ever knew.  I knew that a complete renovation of self was necessary to salvage the relationships (and my life!) to move forward. I had to begin living what I preach!

That’s it!  Live what you preach!!  I’ve pinpointed an area of life that makes me crazy, and that I hope others can learn from, yet as you, I can’t control others or how they choose to live.  All I can do is enlighten those around me to (hopefully) choose to live without regret of their own actions.

We have one life.  Why not make it the most glorious, adventurous, memorable one possible.  Live in light, love and positivity.  Be authentic and true to yourself and others.

You got this!!

 

As you sit here reading this, you’re probably wondering why I’d begin with such a statement. Let me explain. As a relationship coach, and someone who had to go through my own version of hell to realize the detriment of my relationships, I can speak as frank as possible to say: Love yourself first so that you can properly teach other how to love you.

For years, I thought I knew what it was to love myself. I mean, I was comfortable in my own skin, somewhat happy with who I thought I was, and prided myself on who I was “supposed” to be. As I said last week in Embracing Change, I understood what it meant to be who I truly am, not the version of me that I was told to be.

Most of my life I was considered to be a handful of characteristics that, in all, were less than flattering. l was characterized by words such as mean, hard to handle, brutally honest, extremely opinionated, I only see life in black or white (no grey area), independent, strong willed, and that I don’t NEED anyone else. I understand that not all of these words are hurtful or untrue, yet I do rather disagree with the context in which some were used.

When I began the process of diving into the depths of my mind to better understand who I am and where I want my future to go, I began working with what I knew: who I was told I was. I took all of those characteristics and reworded them to be more fitting to who I WANT to be. Each of those words were spun into a version of possibility within myself that the rest of the world would either love or hate; that wasn’t to be my concern any longer.

The key to growth is growing for YOU, not someone else. When you grow into the best version of yourself you embrace a sense of grace for your past self, a humbled point of view for your current self, and pride for who you’re becoming. There is no room for concern of other opinions: YOUR’S is the one that matters now.

We live for validation (I know, I used to as well!). Its unjustified to our being to be inter-twined with someone else’s version of us that we lower ourselves to be who they expect us to be.; when all you need is you!

Look, you’re awesome. You have the ability to be whomever you want to be. You need to love yourself first for countless reasons. But, for fun sake, I’m going to ask you to do something for me..

Make a list of all of the words you’ve been “known” as throughout your life to this point (5-10 words). Next to that list of words, write how those words make you feel about yourself.

If the feeling is anything other than positive, happy or loved, write beside that the word that better suits you and how you want to feel.

Here’s the fun part.. grab some post-it notes and a pen/marker. Those words you decided upon for the YOU that is really who you are, write them on the post-its and put them somewhere you’ll see them each & every day. Then each day say those words out loud. Feel them. Look in the mirror and say them as you look yourself in the eyes.

I want you to begin to appreciate you. The lesson here is simple: You can’t fix any relationship until you fix yourself. None of us are perfect; we have a past and a current, that if we don’t chose wisely will decide for us. When YOU decide upon your future self, you take control out of the hands of others and the world begins to flow in your favor.

There is a lot of mindset changes that will take place if you’re committed. I was! And there hasn’t been a day since that I’m not grateful for the changes and growth that have taken place in my life.

Change can be a challenge because naturally we fight it, yet welcoming it into our lives has tremendous positive effects on our mind, body and soul.

The end result is this: You begin to love you in ways you never knew. You begin to appreciate you for who you want to be, who you see yourself as, and how you want to present yourself to the world.

You are worth every movement, every change, every bit of growth that will come.

Loving who you truly are is the first step to having or creating healthier relationships.

As its been said a million times.. Be you For you.

xoxo

Human nature has taught us many things, yet most of them are wrong.  We grow up in a world that shapes us to believe who we are told we are. Only when we realize we are who we decide to be, is when our internal world really takes shape.

If you’re like me, I had to struggle before I realized that wasn’t who I am.  I had to learn the hard way that all of the years of being told I am this or that, isn’t who I am at all.  I didn’t like the version of me that was implied.  That version lived in a state of constant sadness and strife.  I began to wonder why I allowed this to be for so long.

Here I am, an adult with responsibilities and I’m living in a state of consciousness that didn’t thrive the way I felt I should.  I was existing, yet not living.

It wasn’t until my life felt as if it was slowing fading from my grasp (figuratively speaking), that I knew something massive had to change.  I began to learn how to change from the perception of who I was to who I truly am.  I began to look within, deeply and unapologetically, to understand what my heart was desperately trying to say.

I am not who I was told I am.  I am who I decide to be.  And no matter what age or stage of life you are in, you are in control of who you are and how you chose to live.

You are in control of your beliefs, your feelings, your emotions and your circumstances.

If you are unhappy with any aspect of your life, you have the ability to change it.  You, and only you, can change your life.

My life was in chaos.  Most of which I invited in unknowingly.  I was lost in a sea of sadness, resentment and anger.  I showed a façade of happiness and well thought out decisions that ultimately made me sink deeper into my own despair.  I was on the brink of self sabotage, sitting on the edge of destruction before I woke up.

Something had to change.  When I took control of who I am and began to understand my own mind, I knew that no amount of blame or resentment would lead me to where I was truly destined to be.  I could no longer be the person I was thought to be, I was to be amazing, not full of hate, not full of cruel words and unnecessary blame.  I am in control.

I can’t pinpoint the day that I woke, yet I can tell you that I spent months building the person that I am now.  I spent countless hours and shed millions of tears to realize that no one is to blame for the choices I’ve made or the circumstances of my life, I subconsciously chose it all.

Over time I have learned that this journey will never cease.  This is who I choose to be and the endless work to constantly build more positive habits and behaviors is who I want to be.  I am a beacon of light, a light that I never knew I am, yet am happy to embrace.

When you know deep within that your life is to be more than what your current circumstance is, you are the only person that can control that.

Our lives are surrounded by relationships, some good and some bad.  Nothing happens by chance.  We attract what we have based our thought patterns and beliefs on.

It took so long for me to realize that all of these things were at no fault to anyone else, yet the beliefs that I chose to carry with me.  And I chose to change it all.

I took control and made the necessary changes.  I made a lot of changes. And little by little the darkness (we all have darkness; it just depends how you allow it to exist within your life) began to fade to light.

Responsibility is key to existing.  If you want change in your life, you have to take the first steps to doing so.  Blame and resentment, boredom and anger serve no purpose but to hold you down in a state of who you were told you are, not who you truly are.

Begin to realize the difference.  Make the conscious effort to be YOU and live how you choose to live.

If you’ve never been told this, allow me to break the news: living in a constant state of anger, fear or sadness are surefire ways to continuously live life on someone else’s terms.

WHEN you decide that you are far too impoortant to live this way, because you will eventually, thats when everything begins to shift. Your life will begin to change with little effort.

The Law of Attraction steps in and brings all of the positivity that you’ve transformed into reality.  When you fill your heart with light and replace your old habits with better ones, you’ll not only see the difference, but you’ll feel it to your core.

When you embrace change, the things that you were afraid you couldn’t live without begin to fall away because they were never meant to be yours.  When you embrace who you truly are, the people that aren’t meant to grow with you will begin to fade away.  This is all okay!!  You are changing.  You are growing.  You are becoming your authentic self; and no other opinion matters more than yours.

Grow.  Thrive.  Allow yourself to become the absolute best YOU you can be!

THIS is why I do what I do. I’ve been on that side and I know many of you still are.  I knew my life was far too precious to continue that way and I was more concerned with making the change to create the life I desire, to be among healthy relationships and fulfill my dreams than to remain in a state of bored existence.

Some of my relationships faded away, while many others became stronger.  That’s how this works.  What’s meant to be yours (when you become who you need to be for you) will forever remain.  What’s not, will fade from you.

Its natural, its necessary and you are your first priority.