Too stubborn to know.

You’ve heard the terms “too stubborn for her own good”, “too stubborn to see what’s right in-front of you”. Comments such as these can be perceived in a multitude of ways. How you choose to hear them are up to you.

In business, being stubborn or hard-headed can be a good thing, if its in the context of advancement (and not taking ‘no’ for an answer) or standing up for what’s right. In the case that it isn’t meant as a compliment to your hard work and tough exterior, things tend to get a bit swayed.

As you know, relationships are the connections of life. There isn’t an interaction or conversation that doesn’t begin or end in some sort of relationship. Having a stubborn side to your technique can lead to betterment or detriment. Depending on the level of boldness you choose in any given relationship/conversation.

I was thinking of this earlier today when interacting with my husband regarding my upcoming birthday. I responded with a bit of discontent around his plans for my day. In hindsight, I realized that this was a horrendous way in which to respond to anyone about any topic of discussion. Instead of being appreciative for the thought given, I communicated the opposite.

Similar acts are portrayed in leadership, or any influential role. Are we acting stubborn for egotistical reasons or that of a wholesome standpoint? Are we doing so because of a greater good, or that of self-pity?

In the workplace, whatever that looks like for you, how do you show your power, position or authority? Do the connections of those around you have a bearing on your decision-making or simply that of your own accord?

I find this topic to be one of needed conversation, as sometimes its difficult to see the persona portrayed from the inside of any situation, until deemed necessary to exit the situation and see it from another point of view.

So, how about you.. do you find your stubbornness to be a healthy asset to your success or a hindrance to the platonic (or romantic) connections that you are faced with?

Let’s discuss this, shall we?


  1. Geri Lawhon on November 1, 2020 at 4:11 pm

    You are so right, you can be very surprised what you learn when you drop the stubborn curtain.

    • mama explorer on November 1, 2020 at 4:21 pm

      Exactly, yet its such a tough lesson to learn sometimes.
      Getting out that comfort zone is key!

  2. relaxitsallwrite on October 26, 2020 at 9:21 pm

    “How you choose to hear them are up to you.” Nailed it! I think everyone has their stubborn moments, but a lot of the time it’s because of how they choose to hear it. Taking a step back, seeing the bigger picture, being open to hearing/understanding what the other person is actually attempting to communicate is key. Good post. Thank you!