This morning while preparing for school, my son stated that he no longer wants to go to school. I’m certain this is normal behavior for most children, yet not this kid. He loves school, so this was a concerning revelation from him.
You’ve heard me speak of my kids often, so you may remember hearing what a tender hearted, kind kid he is. The first thing that came to my mind was that he is being bullied by someone at school. All I could think of was that I wanted to protect him however I can to ensure that he’s okay when he’s not with me. I asked him several questions with no real answers. I phoned his dad to gather his opinion on the matter. If you know my son, you know that he is not one to “tattle tale”. Very rarely does he speak up when something is wrong, which is another thing that concerns me.
Coming from two quite verbal parents, how did this child miss this particular gene? I don’t understand! What I do know is that I kicked into pro-active mom mode and emailed his teacher promptly to see if she has any ideas as to what could be bothering him. I have yet to receive a response, but I can promise this.. I will not let this go. I know when to trust my gut and when things just don’t feel right.. and something has happened that has changed his feelings about being at school.
I feel that there’s a fine line between regular protective mom and helicopter mom. I’m confident that I fall right on the border teetering back and forth, depending on the situation. Right now, I’m hovering. He may be eight years old, yet he is always going to be my baby. And I’ll be damned if someone is going to change him into something he isn’t just because they don’t “approve” of who he is or how he is. This is my child! A child that we are raising to follow through life with a gentleness towards the world, to follow his dreams no matter what they might be, and to be a beacon of light to anyone who is different.
I’ll be the first to say.. its okay to be weird! Its more than okay to be different!! Its absolutely beautiful to have a unique personality and not follow the masses. And this is something that I instill in my kids every day. Don’t be like everyone else. There is and always will be only one you. Be you! Be respectful of others. Treat others how you want to be treated. And don’t let anyone knock you down (figuratively or otherwise!).
This may come off as harsh, yet I don’t see it that way. When did bullying become an acceptable behavior? Why do people feel that it’s okay to make others feel less than who they are? Who granted them permission to diminish someone else’s light?
Call me “that mom“, I am completely accepting of it. Because you know what.. there isn’t a child or adult that deserves to feel less worthy than they are.
Respect costs nothing. Peace costs nothing. Being a friend costs nothing. Compassion costs nothing. Caring for others costs nothing.
Bullying has the potential to cost the world everything.
I don’t know about you, but I would be devastated to know that either of my kids made someone else feel bad about themselves. We do not raise our children to lessen someone else’s worth. NO!.. we teach them to love one another, raise others up for who they are, value another’s existence, and be a good friend.
For the purpose of my post, this is about my son, my baby. I don’t know exactly what’s going on at this time, but I will. And I just hope that what my gut is telling me is wrong.
Until next time, friends..