The Mama Chronicles: Rest and Recoup.

As a mom and entrepreneur its very easy to get caught up in the happenings of life, family and business.  We tend to forget the importance of rest.  For some of us, an afternoon will suffice, yet for others a week or more feels more necessary.  The key is to allow yourself the opportunity to do what needs to be done.

Other than ensuring the welfare of your offspring, sometimes shutting off the outside world to clear your mind is all you need to get back to the real you.  I speak of this from experience.  Last year was the very first time in my kids’ lives (at the time, ages 7 & 5) that I spent the night away from them both.  Although it was relaxing, I missed them dearly.  I know most of you can relate to this feeling.

When I became a mom, I made an informed decision to take on attachment parenting.  I loved the idea behind it; creating a bond with my babies that no one can replace, a feeling of security that only a mom can provide, growing a sense of confidence through our bond that would only encourage more outgoing personalities as they age.

As each mom and each pregnancy is different, I made decisions that I felt aligned with how I saw our future roll out.  That’s not to say that the parenting style I chose is the best, most effective parenting out there.  There isn’t one better than the next.  I’m not the same as you, and no one can tell you that you’re doing it wrong.  If you consciously raise your kiddos to be caring, compassionate, well-rounded humans with a sense of responsibility and love for the world around them, you’ve won!  

Back to the point.. even though I choose to be the kind of mom that I am, doesn’t mean that I don’t get overwhelmed at times.  Oh, it happens!  And when it does, I know that I have a support system among me that I can count on.  This is just as essential as taking the time you need.  Find those people who feel you.  The ones who want to see you succeed as much as you do.  The people who you can call upon at any moment.  Those are your people. The key is to be the exact friend in return that you are asking them to be.

Self care can sometimes be more than an hour doing your thing.  Sometimes its a weekend away with your dearest friends, relaxing on the beach with a cocktail in hand.. or sitting by the fireplace.  Or maybe your ideal moment of rest is taking a bath (alone! with no one asking to join you) in a sea of salt and rose.  Or sitting in a quiet room with a blanket and a book.  Regardless of your ideal image, do what needs to be done.

A few days ago on my Facebook page, I spoke of finding your “million dollar feeling”.  Do you have one?  Do you have that one or two things that you can do, no matter the situation, to make you feel on top of your game?  I know I do!  I may be a work-at-home mom, but I can not do it in my pajamas.  CAN NOT!!  If I want to create an impact on the world, I must get myself moving.  By that I do just as I would if I worked outside of the house.. I get dressed, makeup, hair, the whole package.  This is my version of making progress in my daily routine.  (and, oh, I have a routine!)

Here is something, maybe the most important thing you’ll hear from me today, that I want you read and read again.. until you really feel what I’m saying:

Your worth does not depend on the productivity of your day.

I promise your world will not crumble because you took time for yourself.  Your children will not hold this against you.  Your partner, the person who wants to see a beautiful smile on your face, will not hold this against you.  The people in your support system, the other ones who care for your wellbeing, will not hold it against you.  Do you want to know why?  Because they love you.  They care more about you caring for yourself than for you to wear yourself too thin.  They are your people.  They want to help you succeed in life.  They want to be the backbone to the life you are creating.

Don’t sell yourself short.  The only result you create from that is one filled with resentment and exhaustion.  Nobody wants that.  Be who you envision yourself to be.  And don’t take NO for an answer.

You’re a parent.  A Rockstar in your little humans lives.  The one they will always call upon when they have bad dreams or need a hug.

Take a break when you feel its necessary so that you can make an even bigger impact with your dreams.